upstream: one absolute per-query budget across queueing and failover

waiting for a slot now spends the query budget; truncated attempts that
expire fault the budget, not the upstream, and are never attributed.
admission sweeps in priority order before blocking. forward zones spend
read_timeout_ms once across udp, truncation and tcp. adds
nxdns_upstream_budget_exhausted_total and a 64-upstream validation limit.

src/upstream/dot_client_integration_test.zig

@@ -458,7 +458,7 @@ test "a session the upstream closed is recovered by one redial and counted, not
         .priority = 10,
         .enabled = true,
         .health = .init,
-        .sem = .{ .permits = slots.len },
+        .admission = .{ .permits = slots.len },
         .reuse_recoveries = &fixture.recoveries,
     }};
     var pool: pool_mod.Pool = .init(&entries, .{